Motherhood is an overwhelming experience for every girl. They say – “A woman is complete when she becomes a mother”. I think whoever said this statement is hundred percent right. The ‘unconditional love’ and ‘unbearable pain’ are the by-products of being a mother. And the best thing is you experience them simultaneously – every day, every hour, every minute and every second of the clock. Yes, I have hands-on experience of this role. I am a mother to a 2 years old toddler girl, who keeps me on my toes for 24/7. I wrote this post sometime back in an urge to vent out my frustration and the response I got was an eye-opener for me. It went trending on MC4K platform and by reading the comments of other moms, I got to know that they were also sailing in the same boat.
I believe, for every mother, this motherhood journey is similar; lots of ups and downs; highs and lows; ahaas and oops moments! But the things that change for forever are alike for every mum.
- Time is precious and the best thing that you can give to your baby is full undivided attention. At least in the initial days, you cannot take your eyes off that tiny-winy being. Before becoming a mommy, was there anyone so magical & precious who needed you so badly, all the time, for everything? But after you become a mommy, your time is not only yours; you manage it according to your baby’s requirement and schedule.
- Thoughts The day you become a mother, the only thing who has the larger share in your thoughts and mind is your baby. Forget that discount on Jabong or that sale on Zara!
- Taste for food and clothes takes a drastic change. You prefer loose clothes and healthy eating options because it makes your inner and outer self comfortable.
- Priorities in life go upside down. Before I became a mother, I was a workaholic; even I got this title during our office annual celebration. But today, I am a home-maker and a mother. I chose to be a stay-at-home mom; it wasn’t easy but I had no other option. And today I am glad about my choices and I am on my way to become my own boss.
- Patience is the key to happiness and peace. You learn this fact only after becoming a mom. You can fight with others but you cannot fight with your baby to get things as you demand. See this picture. This is when I did not agree to my baby’s demand. That moment I felt embarrassed but then I calmed down and clicked this pic and told myself that this phase shall pass.
- Perseverance is the lesson you learn post becoming a mother. Remember those difficult nights, continuous crying baby. You leave no stone unturned to calm your baby and make her comfortable no matter how difficult the situation is. Recall those painful breastfeeding sessions and your willingness to produce milk for your baby. You tried and did not give up until you satiated her hunger and left her in dizziness.
- Relationships take an overhaul, especially with your partner. It is true post becoming parents, the ‘chemistry and biology’ between partners goes a testing phase. Every other person takes a backseat in the life of a mother.
- Makes You Less Selfish When you are a girl, your life revolves around – how you look, what you eat or dress up; when you become a wife, your husband and new family gets added but when you become a mother, you forget everything and only care about your baby and deep within, think about your parents and thank them for whatever they did for you.
- Habits When you become a mother, you (have to) become more disciplined to perform the duties you are accountable for. Let me clear one thing here, before Shona I used to be a disciplined girl at school, college and office but not at home. My mom used to expect a few things from me, to quote some things like putting things in place, leaving bed early on weekends, cleaning the juicer after use, etc. I never cared about these petty things but now.
- YOU Need I say anything more!?
In the end, I would like to say one thing – “THAT DAY when I became a MOTHER was a day when A NEW ME TOOK BIRTH!”
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