…because it was MY Choice!
It was my decision to get pregnant and have a kid. No one asked me to do family planning. I conceived in the second month, post our marriage. When the news broke I was elated while my husband was bit confused to hear this; he knew what’s coming but I wasn’t aware of the side-effects of Motherhood. I only knew the bright side of motherhood.
I had my reasons why I wanted a kid very soon. I had seen many couples who got married in their late twenties and postponed the idea of becoming parents and later they had to repent on their decision. I was very clear that I won’t spend my money and energy on doctors. Moreover, I wanted to feel the joys of being a mother. I don’t remember playing with kids much when I was unmarried. Ours was a nuclear family with only maa, paa, my younger sister and me. When I got to know about my pregnancy, I knew my life will not remain same but I dint know once the baby is out, it will revolve around her only. I was happy that now for some time I would get rid of my 9 to 5 job. I wanted some change in my life. I wanted a peaceful life, free from all the fuss of the corporate world. No meetings, no clients, no phone calls and no presentations. I was bored of all this. I needed some seclusion. Moreover, we were just married. I had planned some things for my hubby. I wanted to cook tasty meals for him because they say- the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach; though ours was a love marriage with 7 years of courtship. We knew each other very well. He demanded only one thing from me, tasty home-cooked food because he did his schooling and higher studies by staying away from home so he used to crave for ghar-ka-khana. I told him, I would happily stay-at-home and look after the baby and our sweet home. My love for reading also contributed to this. I thought by being at home with my baby I would get enough time to read but things dint turn out as I had planned. I cannot think of reading a book in one go. Moreover, post pregnancy, the concentration level has gone down because you have to keep track of multiple things; you just cannot sit at one place for a long time. Being a stay-at-home mom and managing everything single-handedly is an arduous task.
Now let’s come to the main reason why I chose to be a full-time mommy- It’s my doubt on crèches and daycares. We all are aware of the cases that are happening in these places. I get goosebumps whenever I imagine my daughter getting in such unfortunate situation. A few days back I read a news about a 25 years old young man who raped an infant who was just 28 days old. You won’t believe that news left me in a state of shock for the whole day. I went teary eyed when I read that news and cursed that man who did this heinous crime. I just cannot trust anyone when it comes to safety of my daughter. I need to be more protective about her until she’s able to take care of herself. Now she’s 14-month old and has started understanding some of the expressions, reactions; she seems to be a very good observer and is quite vigilant of others’ actions. I pray to God to give my daughter strength and power to fight the monsters that are freely roaming in our society.
What do you think, how trust-able these crèches and daycares are when it comes to safety of your child?
This article was originally published here.