Marriage – A ‘dreaded word’ among bachelors is – “a union of two different individuals with some legal bindings and vows taken between them”. And this bond is supposed to last until death. I was a firm believer of this institution but after having experienced the taste of it, let me tell you, I would not want to get married in my next birth. Please, let’s not judge my marital life. I have a simple and understanding husband, who loves me and gives me all the freedom to make choices in doing things. But, even then, I do long for the life that I had before tying the knot with my boyfriend. Before becoming a husband and a wife to each other, we had a courtship of good 7 years but still, we both found it hard to meet each other’s expectations. We both are poles apart but because opposites attract so we could not resist the temptation to take our relationship to the next level. We got married and had a baby. Next what!?
Endless expectations. Innumerable Fights. Tears. Heartbreaks. Sorrys. And Love. And this chain repeats.
“Marriage is a love and hate relationship between two partners.”
In these three years of getting married to my college love, I have learnt some lessons, which I would like to share with you.
- Always be truthful to your partner. If you’re not, be ready for the after effects!
- Share your views, feelings, desires, insecurities, likes and dislikes with him/ her. Do not hide them!
- Don’t impose anything on your partner. Give him/her sometime to understand your point of view!
- After marriage, do not compromise your dreams and passion. Try to live them. Don’t lose your individuality!
- If you aren’t happy, you can’t keep your family happy!
- Live in the present. Be physically and emotionally present at the moment!
- Do not follow others. If you aren’t willing to share something with your partner, use your own judgement and decide what is right for you and your family!
- This one for mothers- Try to balance your love and care between your newly born baby and your husband!
- This one for fathers- Sure shot to make your wives happy – Be a good father!
- Last but very important – Always keep the spark on in your relationship!
Marriage is like a sapling, which you are required to nurture on daily basis – with your heart and mind, to make it grow into a tree loaded with sweet fruits. If not cared properly, either the sapling would die or would grow into a tree with no fruits. To make things work, both the partners need to give their share of efforts. Marriage is a very demanding job, where both the parties need to work day and night!
I am happily married but I do long for:
The carefree attitude of an unmarried girl
The lovely time that I used to spend with my mum – we were the morning tea partners
The protection that I used to feel with my dad
The fights that we sisters used to have
The time I had for exploring new things
The time I had for reading books
The time that we (as gf & bf) used to spend with each other
The food that my mom used to cook for me
The care that mom and dad would show me
The nights when my mom would bring a glass of hot milk for me
The nights when my sister would apply Boroplus on my dry lips
The sound sleep with no baby beside
…and the list seems endless…
Apart from these longings, I cherish the bond that I share with my husband and life-partner. I pray to God that the sapling that we had planted three years ago – grows into a garden of trees loaded with sweet fruits.
Things I admire in him <3
His honesty towards our relation
His easy-going attitude
His down-to-earth nature
His unconditional love towards our baby
His kindness & politeness
He is respectful to others
And the best is – He appreciates whatever I cook for him, no matter how badly I cook. 🙂
Now, you must be thinking how sweet my husband is! Yes, he is. But this sweet person also takes me to the situation where I want to bang my head on his tough chest and ask him the question – WHY WHY WHY.
I hate it when…
He is late for something important
He doesn’t take my calls and doesn’t bother to call back
He doesn’t take balanced diet
He gets glued to TV on holidays
He spends carelessly
…actually this list also seems endless…
Side-effects of being a wife. You know.
Let’s not go into more details. Hahahaha.
I would like to sign-off from this post by sharing a quote on marriage:-
What do you think about ‘Love’ in ‘Marriage’?
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