Today, I would like to introduce Ms. Gitanjali Banerjee on the DigiMother blog. She is a mother of a 3-year old kid, born out of IVF technology. Who better can understand the pain of not having a baby or the difficulty in conceiving a baby, than her? The reason she started this InfertilityDost website is to help others who are suffering from the infertility problem, by providing the right information & genuine support to them. Through her website, she wishes to ease the pain of to-be-parents, who are facing difficulty in getting pregnant.
Let us know more about her and her initiative – Infertility Dost, in her own words:
Q.1 Tell us something about yourself and your website Infertility Dost.
Gitanjali: I am a traveller by passion, blogger by profession and now in startup ecosystem by choice. I am a regular middle class girl form Lucknow who like a good girl married at the age 23 because her parented wanted her to. Even though I was pursuing my Masters from JNU and had dreams of getting into academic research, I relented.
While I continued with my studies post marriage it was also time to move into next phase of motherhood. And, it is then that my life took a complete somersault. I wasn’t prepared for what was about to hit me – infertility.
For 10 long years, I battled infertility.
Greatest pain of my life became my biggest strength – the idea of InfertilityDost was conceived.
I had seen how couples undergoing infertility had to simultaneously handle so many factors – medical, physical trauma, societal pressure and apathy, financial issues, psychological trauma, marital discord and relationship harassments.
It is then that I decided to start InfertilityDost which is India’s first digital platform that facilitates & empowers couples undergoing infertility with support and knowledge to manage their journey better and to endure pain with dignity.
Wrapped up in societal taboos it is extremely difficult for such couples to seek help or even acknowledge the problem which complicates everything around. InfertilityDost aims to sensitize the society and spread awareness.
Q.2 What is the cause of infertility in a person & can this problem be cured. If yes, how?
Gitanjali: Firstly, woman though the physical bearer of child is not the sole cause responsible for infertility. It is a couple’s problem and should be dealt accordingly.
Yes, infertility is very much treatable and not only we have alternative and natural ways to treat the basic problems but IVF, ART, ICSI, etc are advanced reproduction technologies used to treat complicated infertility issues.
Below is a basic guide on treatment process.
Q.3 How the person suffering from infertility problem should deal with it?
Gitanjali: How to prepare?
- Gather as much information as possible.
- Make sure your husband cooperates and gets tested
- Talk to your immediate family and prepare them
- Be emotionally prepared
- Be Patient and Stay Strong
- Keep an open mind
- Choose the right doctor
What Not To Do
- Don’t run to astrologers and fake babaji’s
- Don’t fall into depression
- Don’t choose a wrong doctor
- Don’t play blame game and disturb your marital relationship
- Don’t blame your kismat or past karma
- Don’t lose HOPE
Q.4 One message that you would like to give to couples undergoing infertility.
Gitanjali: Couples undergoing infertility should always be on alert. Take well-informed decisions about treatment without letting desperation manipulate your mind. Think from your mind and don’t let your heart cloud your decision making process. Keep an open mind and be always on a lookout to options. Don’t hold back your life for this is just a part of life and not whole of it. Move on if you get stuck somewhere in the treatment.
A have seen a lot of cases where couples keep going for insane number of IVF cycles without even listening to their body which has already given up. So, couples should know when to stay STOP and look for other ways like adoption or decide to remain child-free. Do whatever makes you happy and not what you think is acceptable to society.
Q.5 One message that you would like to give to the society.
Gitanjali: The level of mental agony of a cancer patient and a woman undergoing infertility is same then why former is treated with empathy while an infertile woman gets apathy.
Be sensitive, understand and create a compassionate social environment so that a woman fighting infertility doesn’t feel excluded or tagged. Don’t push her towards depression. Help her, hug her!
I really hope this post would help the couples undergoing infertility problem and if you wish to seek any kind of help from Gitanjali, then do connect with her through her website or you can ping her on twitter too.