Do not judge me when I tell you that sometimes I laugh when my baby cries. Yes, it happens on daily basis, and that too twice or thrice a day. My daughter is a drama queen; she has turned 20 months old this month and is giving me a tough time dealing with her tantrums. Although 80 percent of the times, I manage to calm myself when dealing with her (I just laugh it off) but then there are times when I cry (like a two-year toddler) and get mad like hell. (Silly me)
My daughter cries for ‘n’ number of reasons, nowadays, mostly out of her wish not getting fulfilled; seeing her cry I want to laugh out loud but usually stop myself because I am her mom and I am supposed to calm her down when she cries (even when she does drama).
As soon as she wakes up in the morning, the first thing she does is look for me and when she doesn’t see me lying beside her, at that moment only she starts yelling and on seeing me takes a sigh of relief and gives expressions like found her lost diamond. At that moment I feel very important and wanted. Then comes the milk time; she becomes so impatient (because of hunger) that I have to quickly warm the milk and feed her within 2-3 minutes of her waking up. I have never felt such kind of emergency in my life ever. As soon as her tummy gets full she becomes calm and hugs me tightly. Then I sooth her and try to make her play with her toys. But sometimes she becomes so clingy that she doesn’t allow me to get fresh (can you imagine my condition). I remember one instance when one day I went to the loo and she literally bent down crying to check me through the little space between door and floor. On seeing this, I got confused how to react- calm her down or laugh at what she just did!
Recently, my mom and dad brought a mini water pool for her and now the amount of time she spends on her bathing activity has increased. In fact, I literally have to drag her from the bathroom; she thoroughly enjoys rolling, jumping and spilling sessions in her small pool. I feel like a Hitler momma when I stop her from enjoying her long bathing sessions and make her cry. Not only this, she shows anger and becomes teary eyed when I don’t let her eat her favorite chocolate, toffee. Now that she is learning to eat on her own, she gets annoyed when I take the spoon/fork from her hand in order to feed her. Confusing, isn’t it? No, this is not the end of her tantrums. This is about our evening walk in the society park- there we spend around 1 hour and sometimes she just doesn’t listen to me and goes here and there. To make her listen to me, I just need to say ‘baby I am going’ and then instantly I get full attention from her and she comes running to me crying as if I am going to leave her alone. Touching yet funny!
These toddlers are too cute and funny. One moment they are crying and the other moment they are completely quiet, as if nothing happened!
Now coming to serious crying of babies; in almost 2 years of parenting my daughter, I have faced a few nights of unknown pain and relentless crying. People say, it is because of a problem called colic. The other reasons of crying that I learnt in the first year of mothering my daughter are the following:
She is hungry
Since the day she was born, I have been feeding my daughter after every two hours. When she was fully breast-fed till six months, things were very difficult due to a cumbersome process of expressing and then feeding her through a rice tube. I had to start preparing for her next feed at least 1 hour before her feeding time. But when we started solids, things became easier. As soon as she would wake up hungry, I would feed her her favorite sooji kheer or just hold her close to my breast for those moments.
Diaper needs to be changed
I remember one scary night when she had been crying non-stop and would not calm down even when I tried feeding her. I could not understand the reason and then I checked her diaper and figured out it was because of dirty diaper that had caused redness in her genitals and made her cranky.
Needs cuddling/ swaddling
The second thing after milk that a baby needs is lots of cuddling from her parents. Especially, in the initial months, it is mandatory to cuddle your baby to establish that bonding between each other. Also, swaddling is very important for infants, it makes them feel secure, like in mother’s womb.
Yes, babies too become tired. And when they become so they make sure to make others feel tired of figuring out their reason of crying. It takes time to understand this behavior of baby but gradually you become expert in guessing if your baby is tired or crying because of some other reason. When they show such behavior just hold them close and try to make them sleep in cozy environment. I always do this with my daughter whenever she becomes irritable because of tiredness.
I want momma
This is especially during the late afternoon and evening that baby needs mother ONLY. I don’t know why. I have experienced this many a time!
Bored of momma
Everybody needs change, so does these tiny-winy beings. They also like variety.
Needs to go out
Sometimes they just need change of their surroundings. Take them out in a stroller and go for a walk. You will also feel good.
Not feeling well
If your baby acts weird, like she becomes clingy, irritable, doesn’t eat properly that means she is not feeling well. Go and see some doctor.
That’s all what I have experienced so far.
Now that I have shared my happy and sad moments with you; do tell me yours!
This article was originally published here.